Your summer wardrobe can say a lot about you, and even play a major role in attracting your future love. To explain it all, our resident dating expert is back with her hot take on the topic.
BY LINDSEY METSELAAR
Happy July, Spotlight fam! This month we’re talking about one of my favorite subjects. Well, two of them. Dating, and style. I must admit, while dating and I go way back, style is more of a new friend that I’ve gotten close with in the past few years. Being in my thirties, I finally figured out my personal style—what looks good on my body and not just on a model’s. I also realized that styling and dating have a lot to do with each other. Our sense of style is a huge factor in attracting the right people into our lives, especially in the romantic sense. I’m frequently asked questions like, “What’s the right first date outfit?” Or “Is a bikini photo on my dating profile trying too hard?” After careful consideration, here are my top four tips for how to attract the best partner based on your unique style.
- Dress for Comfort. We’ve all been that girl on a date who tried so hard to squeeze into a mini skirt because we thought it gave us more sex appeal and then the entire date, we’re pulling down our skirt and feeling so Or the guy who did our best to squeeze into that tight shirt showing off our muscles, only to realize it’s impossible to consume food while wearing it. Being uncomfortable is palpable to your date, and when you feel good in what you wear, it creates a more relaxed environment in which you can actually focus on each other and connect.
- Don’t Try Too Hard. Just because you have it, doesn’t in fact mean you need to flaunt it! I’ve learned that less is more, and most of my dates where I wore a turtleneck were much more successful than the ones where I dressed to the nines. Try going on a date post workout class. It shows that you’re busy, you have hobbies, and you’re not dropping everything for a person you don’t really know yet.
- Wear What Makes You Feel Most Confident. Don’t let your friends make fun of you because you have your go-to first date outfit. If it ain’t broke, no need to fix it. If there’s an outfit that you consistently feel confident in, that shows off your features in all the right ways, then wear it! Nothing says you’re confident more than knowing what you look good in and rocking it.
- Wear the Clothes, Don’t Let the Clothes Wear You. If anyone is guilty of this, it’s me. My body has changed a lot since I was 21, yet I still love to pretend I’m a smaller size than I am and get mad at my clothes for not cooperating. Why should we get mad at our clothes when they’re the ones that are supposed to work for us? We’re paying for them, not the other way around. When we let the clothes wear us, it shows that we’re not in tune with our style.
At the end of the day, the right partner will be attracted to your ability to represent yourself in a way that makes you feel good. Because when you feel good, you look good. And don’t forget, especially when going out on dates, you’re never fully dressed without a smile! For more tips, you can follow @wemetatacme on Instagram or listen to “We Met at Acme” wherever you listen to podcasts. I’ll be looking for your stylish outfits around the Hamptons this summer!